If u hv a quick RAGE response, practice a 1st response of a simple opposite .. Smile, laugh, or immediately speak “PEACE!” .. Calm ur heart!
Watching a favorite comedy is good medicine.
When some1 u luv is struggling w/
#depression, BE w/them, acknowledge any truth in their grief, speak realistic HOPE, encourage them 2laugh.
It is no virtue 2always acquiesce 2what u think another person wants from u. This is evidence u may be a ppl pleaser w/o healthy boundaries.
A decision in the moment 2yield ur own wants 4another’s may FEEL selfless; but it is UNLOVING if u “blame” them as if they’re manipulating.
Trying 2guess what will please ur spouse can be a loving way 2GIVE but not if u attach expectation&make their lack of gratitude THEIR fault.
If ur spouse feels blamed 4ur decisions u may be trying 2hard 2please ¬ owning ur own decisions. Learn 2speak in the NOW. Hv ur own mind.
Having ur own mind &owning ur own decisions (not only doing what u THINK the other person wants) means: ASK more ?’s &being willing2say NO.
2say what u want, u hv 2KNOW what u want. If u don’t know ur own heart, u can’t “get mad” if the other person guesses incorrectly! Hv MERCY.
Why are u “embarrassed”? Self-conscious? Could it be ur trying2hard 2be something ur not? How can u fault the other person 4ur dishonesty?
Do u feel like ur being blamed? Do u feel u always ruin things? Examine ur harsh thinking. Maybe ur more “fake” 4their sake than u realize.
U make a decision 2act this or that way 2avoid being “rude.” If the other doesn’t know better, how can u blame them 4not seeing ur façade?
If u luv someone enuf 2bend 2their “unawareness”, why UN-luv them later w/a sour disposition? They didn’t ruin ur time, ur expectations did!
Often wives become overconfident in their intuition. Learn2say exactly what u mean! U don’t realize how often u injure by misinterpreting.
U loved him enuf 2marry him. Trust him enuf 2hear ur real thoughts/feelings. Even if all u can muster is “I don’t know why I feel this way!”
Do u often feel tempted 2say “Can’t u see that I’m […]?!” U may hv just identified an unreasonable expectation ur imposing. Look 2urself.
U wish u had more time together? .. oh dear, don’t squander what precious little time u DO have being angry and defensive!
Ppl tend 2access memories that disable rather than enable them. Train urself 2dwell on positive memories = Empowerment.
Don’t give the Holy Spirit “credit” – as if HE’S holding u back – when the issue is ur OWN emotional resistance 2change.
It’s going 2take patience. Permanent change doesnt happen overnight. Re-assess; fix any problem steps &keep moving forward!
Interrupt ur autopilot! Turn self-defeating actions to self-enhancing ones by encouraging urself. Celebrate smal victories!
Small actions are each like a stair step that gets u 2the goal. Be faithful in them.
Actions BUILD upon each other. When u repeat the right behavior, u start 2imprint change into ur body &mind.
1Know what u want.2Position urself toward ur goal.3Choose wisely everyday.4Surround urself w/encouragemnt.5Wait&reevaluate.
Ask urself: What do u want? &then look deep into ur heart &see if true. If yes, u need 2claim it. Decide ur going 2get it.
“The actions you take must be harmonious with the outcome you desire.”
U must EXERCISE ur power of choice. If u don’t CHOOSE 2change, u may be forced by external pressures that come upon u.
$ doesn’t just drop out of the sky. Love won’t get healthy w/o work. U must TAKE necessary steps 2MAKE change in ur life.
We should be determined 2make positive changes in our lives BEFORE we arrive at the point where change is most difficult!
Poor Alternatives: After years of abusing R bodies physically we MUST change or face negatv consequences of sickness/death.
Sometimes its GOOD 2finally say, “I’ve had enuf! I refuse 2allow the world 2squeeze me anymore. Things are going 2change!”
Every time you experience a crisis, you can either let it destroy you or use it as an opportunity for personal growth.
We resist bcuz we fear loss, but when pain of staying same = greater than pain of change we let go of familiar&embrace new.
Usually people change for 1 of 2 reasons—2move away from pain or 2move toward gain…Away from punishment &toward reward.
Identify the emotions w/which u struggle &develop a strategy 2overcome them. Change ur life by changing ur MIND.
Emotions were given 2u by God! They can empower or paralyze. Develop a pattern of responding CORRECTLY 2negative emotions.
While u shouldnt magnify ur emotions, u shouldnt deny them either. Denying = taking no positive action 2change it!
When negative emotions come into our lives, we tend to magnify them instead of seeing them for what they are.
Always size ur situations up realistically/rationally. Ask urself the right ?s like What will it matter 200 years from now?
Is this really how it is? Or am I blowing it out of proportion? Try ur best 2detach from emotion itself 2C it objectively.
Let God speak 2u about it, put things in perspective! There may B things ur not seeing realistically or judging rationally.
It takes a lot of self control to begin making the transition from negative to positive. What helps you stay positive?
What can I learn from experiencing this negative emotion? What is this revealing 2me about me? What beliefs need 2change?
Asking the right questions will change your focus and help you identify your negative beliefs.
Positive emotions empower 2positive action, &reverse is also true. Want 2FEEL romantic w/spouse again? ACT romantic &PRAY!
Change ur focus or change ur actions. Ask the Holy Spirit 2give u a positive image that will replace that negative one.
Negative emotions almost always point to unhealthy and incorrect beliefs.
Use negative emotions as indicators not as captivators. Learn 2use negtv emotions 2identify wrong BELIEFS u suffer from.
There’s a reason why ur feeling afraid,angry,hurt..Emotions can help you identify areas in ur heart that need some change.
If ur suffering from fear, try to look beyond that emotion’s face value to identify the belief that’s causing ur fear..
What belief are you empowering? Negative emotions can also point to unhealthy behavior. Learn to observe your emotions….
Ask the Holy Spirit 2empower u w/positive emotions…The “fruit of the spirit”….They can be emotions or behaviors.
..Love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control. Against such there is no law. Gal 5:22-23
Joy &Peace are emotions, but also actions. We express the fruit of the spirit inwardly as emotions & outwardly as actions.
Allow these 2strengthen&flow from u; u’ll B empowerd 2reach ur dreams,treat others w/compassion,see life in positive terms.
For lack of VISION, the ppl perish. What’s ur VISION? What R the fears that choke out the good seeds of ur harvest?
1) DECIDE. You have a dream, you may fear stepping out, but you decide to bite the bullet and buy the motorcycle!
2) EDUCATION = CONFIDENCE. U may be nervous, but u sign up 4motorcycle bootcamp. Soon u ride like u were BORN 4this!
3) FOCUS IN DIRECTION U WANT 2GO. U wobble on ur turns cuz ur 2aware of mechanics. Focus fwd &the bike will follow!
4) DREAM BIG &TAKE OTHERS W/U. Step out, find ppl 2teach, create community around shared passion &find fulfillment!
Recognize law of cause &effect; HARNESS it 2change ur thinking & so change ur LIFE. Articulate & CHASE ur VISION.
We get offended 2easily, then meditate on it over &over, developing a sense of entitlement & “THEY OWE ME!” mindset.
The key 2CLARITY, 2keeping ur HOPE realistic, 2blocking ur time, 2persevering: WRITE IT DOWN.
As a man believes in his heart, so is he. Whatever we sow, we also shall reap. Are u tending to weeds? or seeds?
Each 1 has entirely different construction in ur brain! Don’t compare. Focus on ur OWN calling 2incredible things!
RESOLVE to SHUT OUT all other voices &believe in urself no matter how u feel or what others may say. Tend ur garden.
Start where u ARE – find ways 2incorporate learning – waterproof speaker in shower, listen 2podcasts while driving.
Unforgiveness is like mixing poison for the person who hurt you and then drinking it yourself.
Taking “risks” actually stimulates neuron growth in ur brain. Success breeds more success!
Ur subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between dreaming/reality. DREAM BIG! BELIEVE = TRANSFORM ur mind.
Cause & Effect is a universal law. Use “cause & effect” 2change ur brain/physiology. Change ur mind, change ur life!
Ur brainwaves are highest in 1st 20 minutes of ur day. What u do in 1st 20 min can change ur course 4rest of ur day.
Fear wreaks havoc on executive center of brain. Adrenalin+Cortisol R gr8 in battlefield, but paralyze at work/home.
WRITE UR PLAN, Schedul it,Envision&Believ it’ll happen,Speak it consistently,Evalu8,Write improvmnts,Reward urself. Repeat!
what a beautiful mess we humans can be <3
Ur not a “product” of what has happened 2u. Ur a FRUIT of what God has done 4 & is doing IN u, & He is PATIENT thru all seasons!
Relationships OFTEN reach painful impasse ovr core values. Our paths may diverge as we nvr expected; BUT lets B grateful 4the season we HAD.
The younger we are the less we realize the seasonal nature of friendships. But when we look back, we can be grateful 4shared grace AND loss.
Read today: “Time’s this chameleon that disguises itself as slow &then fast &who’s got any clue as how 2understand the strangeness of Time?”
Read today: “God never has an objection to saying Yes to us — unless a No is His best protection of us.”
Guard quiet time,Keep healthy boundaries,PRAY,Make physical health a priority,FINISH the important & QUIT ur time-wasters,Give generously!
A “stress free” life is an ILLUSION. Maximizing ur effectiveness in exerting influence OVER ur life. You CAN make better decisions!
Anger tends 2stem from feeling violated in a feeling of “entitlement” (I hv a RIGHT 2not hv my time wasted!) Examine urself: What’s the ROOT
2easy 2get caught up believing partial truths (2much 2do, 2 little time!) = LIES (I can’t do this!). Preach TRUTH 2urself, 1 thing @ a time!
Time 2concentrate on changing my PERSPECTIVE (again). Life isn’t happening TO me, I need 2MAKE things happen. Calm, focused INTENTIONALITY.
REST is not a “waste of time” .. it takes HUMILITY 2slow down, re-assess, self-counsel, formulate a plan &follow it. I need 2GUARD my sleep!
Carrying the “2do” list in ur head = dealing w/increasing complexities of life MORE difficult. Have PATIENCE 2write things OUT &plan AHEAD!
Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards; 4our vineyard is in bloom [vines have tender/vulnerable grapes]. SofS 2:15
Am reminded again:
#LOVE is DOING not merely “feeling” .. It’s not enuf 2WANT 2love well. Be alert 2LIES u believe; BEHAVIOR must change.
If ur more concernd w/ur feelings than ur mate’s, it’s a surefire way 2derail Trust; ur 2lost in ur wants/needs/insecurities 2b loving 2him.
Time 2do MY “due diligence” – trim my emotional sails &even my keel, steady as she goes. Caring 4ME is best way 2b stable &love him WELL.
2many “follows”/”newsfeed” updates = CLUTTER, &the cluttered life is not a happy/grace-filled one. Learn 2WISELY unplug from the unnecessary.
“A soft answer turns away wrath” isn’t just true in how we handle conflict w/others. I need 2learn 2employ this INTERNALLY w/myself, too.
Was told this a.m. I need 2learn 2compartmentalize my thinking (2steer away from stress). I think therez a KEY here 2live calm/focused life.
As a man THINKS in his HEART, so IS he! .. change your thoughts, change your brain, change your behaviors, change your LIFE! <3
Authentic humility is NOT mere self-deprecation. It’s trademarkd by joyful aspiration, unafraid to “fail” cuz it doesnt EXPECT life 2b easy.
Being a Lifelong Learner is great – but requires something far more valuable than a thirst 4knowledge .. I must 1st be HUMBLE.
“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.” Ps.19:14
God’s design 4this world gives us a significant parable .. sowing seed &reaping a harvest. And we SOW what we SAY!
#speaklife Prov. 18:20-21
God’s design for our bodies is MIRACULOUS .. we were designed to HEAL!!
‘Prayer is not appointed for the furnishing of God with the knowledge of what we need, but..a confession to Him of our sense of need.’ -Pink
“We must all suffer 1of2 pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret…discipline weighs ounces [but] regret weighs tons.” ~Jim Rohn
Father2the fatherless Defender of widows;God whose dwelling is holy.He places the lonely in families&sets the prisoners free&gives them joy.
Ur kids ask something that trips u up? Take TIME 2consider how 2reply w/o shame &w/o fear, &don’t gv a 5 lb answer when a 2 oz one will do.
It’s as SIMPLE as “natural consequences” .. as simple as sowing, &reaping what we sow. GOD help me SOW GOOD SEED &trust YOU 4the harvest!
Grace will destroy the delusion of your own righteousness, then point you to the reality of your new righteousness in Christ. [Paul David Tripp]
Sometimes God has to remind you that you’re weak so that you can be set free from your “self-sufficiency.” [Tullian Tchividjian]
“The slender capacity of man’s heart cannot comprehend the unfathomable depth and burning zeal of God’s love toward us.” Martin Luther
Be sober &alert,the days R evil. Yet know God also works ALL things 2gether 4good of all who luv him &R cald according 2his purpose. Rom8:28
Though we are all weak, ordinary people, His grace is sufficient to motivate us to remain faithful. [Mike Bickle]
What we say with our mouth is dynamically connected with the measure of faith that grows in our heart. (Mk. 11:23) [Mike Bickle]
You may not like “who” is saying it, but that doesn’t make them wrong.
You may LOVE “who” is saying it, but that doesn’t make them right.
My confession, my declaration:
I have spent many years of my life prophesying negative, even deadly things over my life .. abusing myself with insecurities and failings (most merely self-fulfilling prophecies) and hateful loathings, and most of which out of a desire to be holy, to be loved by God, or to be loved by others. Certainly this was not the sum of me, but it was my pattern, Old Me thinking. It has taken me the better part of the past two years to wake up to just how FAITH-LESS this was, how very …OUT of the character of God ..
Yes, He desires – even demands! – our holiness. But not that we might become loveable. And not because perfection was EVER attainable. Instead, He speaks lovingly, persues relentlessly, and PROVIDES for our holiness HIMSELF in the perfect substitute – Jesus – SO THAT we, who are utterly imperfect ourselves, could survive and thrive in His presence, abiding with Him LOVINGLY and WORSHIPFULLY and with FULL realization of who he INTENDED us to be .. forever.
So I am resolved to speak now of myself as HE speaks, to see myself as His finished work because that is where I am GOING .. I must prophesy HIS promises over my own life .. not yield to the stealing, killing and destroying lies of the enemy .. even when I am that enemy.
I won’t go back to what I was. New Me is here to stay!
Faith-FULL even in the little things .. even if I have to fight with myself to STAY there, because HE began a GOOD work in me, and even if I know nothing else, I know HE will be faithful to bring it to completion. So help me God, for better and for worse, I am His and He is mine!
Preach the TRUTH to yourself, REGULARLY! <3
My best “before and after” pics so far.
In the past two years, I have gone from 324 lbs and a size 26, down 155 lbs (100 lbs of this in a 120 day INTENSIVE window of time) to a BMI healthy weight of 169 lbs (so far) and a size 8.
I was at one point on 16 different prescriptions, including multiple inhalers, had chronic fatigue and pain issues, recurring pneumonia, sometimes serious digestive issues (I thought this was normal for everyone!), breathing and heart-racing issues, cyclical migraines, hormonal imbalances, systemic yeast infection, and bad skin issues, to say nothing of my depression and purposelessness –
I didn’t even know that my core belief was that I was not “worth” saving.
In spite of a 4 month window where I had to have spinal surgery, I have not gained back any of the 155 lbs I have so far lost, and I am HEALED of almost all my issues.
Now – NO pneumonia, NO remaining prescriptions, NO fatigue pain issues, my menstrual cycle has been 4 weeks regular for over a year (first time in my whole LIFE!) and only “normal” cramping (instead of the excessive, debilitating pain to which I had grown accustomed), and more than one medical professional has told me I have a heart “conditioned like a runner’s” .. and I have energy like never before, and clarity of thinking.
ALL because of GRACE. ALL because we have a GOOD FATHER in God who gives generously to all who ask for wisdom, without finding fault.
ALL because God gave me a vision of what he had MADE me to be. ALL because He introduced me to my best friend who “just so happened” to be a fitness/nutritionist who faithfully encouraged me for YEARS beforehand to do the HARD thing, to be prepared to “pay in pain” because I didn’t get to my state overnight, a friend who would ultimately give me the tool I needed to succeed, and teach me to use it! ALL because He led me to the godly woman who would also be my wellness coach to deal with all the mental/spiritual mess I was in that led to my morbid obesity in the first place. ALL because He wanted to SET ME FREE from my mental and physical food addictions. ALL because he wanted to strip away the WASTE I had made of my life, and make me NEW. Again. :)
He is GOOD.
Sober and alert, for the days are evil .. God, let us not deceive ourselves!
Originally posted on Chrisicisms:
On Sunday night, as Twitter and Facebook were reporting that 21 Egyptian Christians had been murdered by ISIS, I ignored them and watched the “Saturday Night Live” anniversary special.
On Monday, as the story gained more traction, I dutifully changed my Facebook profile to the number 21 in honor of the dead, and then went about the rest of my day before coming home to write a blog about my great spiritual sacrifice: not using my Smart Phone during Lent.
Tonight, I came home and wrote about the upcoming Oscars, my great contribution to the world being my ability to be witty when discussing what some have called the world’s glitziest employee-of-the-month ceremony. I wrote about “Selma,” “Boyhood” and “Birdman” as if they were cornerstones of our culture, and as if their performance at the Oscars would change the course of our society. Meanwhile, I’m distracting myself from thinking about…
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Tweeted by Franklin Graham the other day: “I’ve learned on my trip human trafficking is not only sex and labor but children are sometimes sold so that their organs can be harvested.” *OMG*
— feeling sick.
Dec. 22 .. Come 2Bethlehem &see Him whose birth the angels sing; Come, on bended knee, adore Christ the LORD! the newborn KING! Gloria in excelsis Deo!
Dec. 23 (a) .. What child is this who sleeps on Mary’s lap? Whom angels greet w/sweet songs while shepherds keep watch by nite? ‘Tis God’s promisd SAVIOR!
Dec. 23 (b) .. What child is this? ..Nails, spears shall pierce him thru, a cross he’ll bear 4me 4u. Hail the Word made flesh! this Babe, the Son of Mary!
Dec. 24 .. @PastorTullian: “Christmas sets in motion the Divine pattern of God drawing near to us, not because we’ve done it right, but because we keep doing it wrong.”
Dec. 25 .. CHRISTMAS DAY!!
God rest ye merry, gentlemen,
Let nothing you dismay,
Remember Christ our Savior…
Was born on Christmas Day;
To save us all from Satan’s power
When we were gone astray.
O tidings of comfort and joy,
Comfort and joy,
O tidings of comfort and joy!
From God our heavenly Father
A blessed angel came;
And unto certain shepherds
Brought tiding of the same;
How that in Bethlehem was born
The Son of God by name.
“Fear not, then,” said the angel,
“Let nothing you affright;
This day is born a Savior
Of a pure virgin bright,
To free all those who trust in him
From Satan’s power and might.”
Now to the Lord sing praises,
All you within this place,
And with true love and brotherhood
Each other now embrace;
this holy tide of Christmas
Doth bring redeeming grace
Dec. 19 (a) .. Mary did u know that ur baby boy will someday walk on water?..he came2save our sons &daughters? Did u know ur baby boy has come 2make u new?
Dec. 19 (b) .. Mary did u know ur baby boy will gv sight 2a blind man?He’s walkd where angels trod!&when ur kiss ur little baby uve kissed the face of God.
Dec. 20 (a) .. Mary did u know ur baby boy is Lord of all creation?&ruler of nations?&heavn’s perfect Lamb! This sleeping child ur holding is the gr8 I AM!
Dec. 20 (b) .. When I was a seeker .. I asked the Lord 2help me &He showed me the way! Go tell it on the mountain &everywhere that Jesus Christ is born!
Dec. 21 .. JOY 2the world, the LORD has come! Let earth receive her KING! Let every heart prepare Him room, &Heaven &nature sing!
Dec. 17 (a) .. Born a King on Bethlehems plain;King 4ever,ceasing never,Ovr us all 2reign. Star of wonder..w/royal beauty brite! Guide us 2ur perfect Lite.
Dec. 17 (b) .. Glorious now behold Him arise,King &God &Sacrifice. Alleluia, alleluia!Sounds thru earth &skies. O star of wonder,Guide us 2ur perfect Lite!
Dec. 18 .. NOEL! Born is the King of Israel! Let us all w/1accord sing praises 2our heavnly Lord who made heavn&earth..&w/his blood mankind has bought!
Dec. 13 .. Be near me Lord Jesus I ask u2stay close by me 4ever &love me I pray. Bless all the dear children in ur care &take us 2heavn 2live w/u there ..
Dec. 14 .. Come they told me.. a new born King 2see.. our finest gifts we bring.. 2lay b4 the king.. so 2honor Him Pa rum pum pum pum.. when we come
Dec. 15 .. Little baby Jesus, I am a poor boy too.. I have no gift 2bring.. That’s fit 2give our King.. Shall I play 4u Pa rum pum pum pum.. On my drum
Dec. 16 .. Sweet little Jesus boy ..We didn’t know who u was Didn’t know u’d come 2save us Lord 2take our sins away Our eyes was blind we couldn’t see