Boys Will Be Boys?
Just some thoughts lately.
Men behaving badly – “boys will be boys” – IS a cultural dynamic that has been largely accepted/tolerated/permissed, even ENCOURAGED. And on the flip-side of our society, we emasculate our men, over-feminist (yes, I said that correctly) ALL male motives, devalue their protective and ambitious instincts, and champion the merging of genders – as if that solves anything? (unless perhaps it’s this very socially adolescent attempt to bully .. err .. um .. “correct” bad behavior that has in fact FUELED it?)
But why should we be surprised? If we throw out, as a society, any notion of absolute truth, the only virtue is “tolerance” expressed as “having a right to not be offended,” then everything goes helter skelter, standards are made and measured only by FEELINGS, there IS no objective morality except the majority narrative which is altogether subject to the winds of change, and parents have been ROBBED of the opportunity to educate and talk openly with their kids, either because of their own intrinsic laziness, self-centeredness, fear of embarrassment, or fear of some authority deeming such RIGHTFUL transparency and direction as “offensive” to the Collective or the State.
For all our supposed “openness” as a culture, STILL the best advice given by most dads to their sons is “make sure you use a rubber,” and girls are left pretty much without ANYTHING – including the ability to stand up against “inappropriate” behavior or (God-forbid) actually DEFEND themselves .. Because – well, we’re supposed to wear provocative clothing and we’re built as a culture NOT to praise true beauty, but seduction.
So … what’s a family to do?
Apart from God – or at LEAST the NOTION of an objective standard of right/wrong/ethics/morality, we’re ALL lost in the whirlpool. We will all be abused and abusers in some way, but don’t worry – even the last vapors of any “meaning” to the term “abuse” will themselves eventually lose any moral or emotional buoyancy on the waves of our collective subjectivism and drown suffocatingly in the sea of our lost critical thinking and hyper-inflated, soul-numbing, react-instantly world.
Never you mind; just have patience, we will all be one, on our own terms (or so we think). And thus given over to ourselves, we are already destroyed.
Lest God himself intervenes. Again.
Just thinking out loud.