Grandpa’s Wisdom

PEACE, BE STILL!
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I have one of those brains that just does not like to sit still. You may think I’m being “quiet” but I have a million things churning all the time – and I am not super great at discerning when my “cup” is about to get too full. No surprise to most of my friends/family/coworkers. šŸ˜‰
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I also have one of those “consciences” that mistakenly believes at its core that “rest” is a WASTE OF TIME. (LIE!) .. so I go go go till I get sick and my body forces me to stop. And rest. And I feel guilty. Every time. *sigh* (It seems, I am my father’s daughter. ā¤ )
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KEEP IT SIMPLE
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So, the “voices” that resonate most meaningfully to me are the calm, measured, reasonably assured, occasionally zealous, highly informed (even intellectual) yet Keep-It-Simple and otherwise “matter-of-fact” types who may not even know they’re speaking “peace” in my “chaos.”
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To all my beloved friends who are these voices in my life, THANK YOU. ā¤
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A FIT WORD APTLY SPOKEN
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As a random aside, my Sister stands out as a prime example of this in my world. I can fluster her with 2 hours of enthusiastic fervor, during which she patiently listens and ponders and never judges (or at least never says so), and after which she’ll usually calmly tilt her head to one side, offer a single meaningful sentence or question (yes, she’s really been listening), and seemingly without even trying, in one minute she’s unraveled all my musings and ramblings and repackaged my considerations into a nice, neat little bite-size morsel. We rarely disagree, but even when we do, she has consistently offered wisdom and discernment and grace in return for what amounts to an awful lot of zeal and fist-shaking and MAYBE a spec of truth buried inside a tangle of chaotic over-thinking on my part. *sigh* She faithfully speaks PEACE into my storms. ā¤
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WHEN IS ENOUGH, ENOUGH?!
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But this forces me to raise another question .. at what point is it REALLY “over-thinking”? To this girl (*points at SELF*) who seems to unshakably(arrogantly?) believe MOST people suffer from UNDER-thinking, I don’t always know the point at which resolution could/should be reached, and I invariably think and analyze and “agitate” myself into a very gnarly yarny ball of knots (waaaaay) too much of the time. Sooooo, *sheepish glance* .. I don’t really RECOGNIZE the “over-thinking/analyzing” until AFTER the fact. (Is this post a prime example?)
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YOUR GRANDPA HAD IT RIGHT šŸ™‚
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MERCIFULLY, I had a conversation with a Dear Someone recently – who genuinely loves me and has a vested interest in not only seeing me “relieved” from my self-imposed mental anguish, but also in helping me overcome this proclivity for his OWN peace of mind šŸ˜‰ .. this may or may not also be the same Dear Someone who has been known to say “Too many words, honey, what’s your REAL question?” šŸ˜‰ – who suggested I employ his Grandpa’s two main pieces of advice as “guardrails.”
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1) If you think you want it today? Sleep on it, and see if you still want it tomorrow. If you think you want it tomorrow? Wait a week, and you’ll know if you REALLY want it.
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2) If you can’t make a decision from every which angle, your indecision IS your decision. It’s a no.
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These are very similar to standards I have employed in my own life already, especially the second which for me was somewhat born out of the understanding that “God is not the author of confusion.” (So if I’m operating “in confusion” about a thing, I’m not being LED (see Romans 8), or I don’t have enough “light” of direction as yet. So the answer is “no.” At least for now.)
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DO. OR DO NOT. THERE IS NO TRY.
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What I SAW in this reiterated two pieces of Grandpa’s wisdom was also a significant CLUE to helping me BREAK the cycle of over-thinking. Both of these principles are necessarily attached to (surprise surprise) taking an ACTION step of some kind. What do I need to DO? Where do I need to GO? Should I or should I not “buy” this thing? etc.
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I may not technically KNOW when I’m “over-thinking” a thing, but I generally “know” when I am feeling overwhelmed, or when my “cup” has been filled to overflowing.
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(And sadly, it’s NOT “enough” to simply say to myself, “Be still and know that [HE is] God.” Because the REASON I’m over-thinking is very often attached to some big “ultimate question” kind of issue or “cosmic ideal” for which I am striving .. And let’s not here get into the discussion about my needing to “know that I know that I know” so I can “control” every outcome .. which is NOT “walking by faith” .. *humbling* .. cuz that is a topic for a whole ‘nother post, and attaches very beautifully to some revelations that occurred in my weightloss journey that also served to expose some of my own inner “heart idols”.)
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Rules of thumb:
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1) If I’m “over-talking” I’m probably “over-thinking” (Is this post a prime example?)
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2) If I’m “over-stressed” I’m probably not “owning my own decisions” and letting others/circumstances/”fear of man” toss me to-and-fro.
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3) To INTERRUPT the “over-thinking” I need to ASK myself an ACTION question.
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“Ok, Leah, but what can you DO about this? What do you NEED to DO about this?”
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If there is no “DO,” I suspect that might be a VERY good indication that there is no “NEED” to know ..
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LET. IT. REST. *sigh*
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Peace be still
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THERE is my “be still and know that [HE is] God” moment.
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It’s true, I have too long valued the “knowing” over the “doing.” And learning to flip-flop this reality in practice WAS all the difference between STAYING morbidly obese and finally losing 160 lbs. Learning to flip-flop this reality in practice was ALL the difference between living all “in my head” and taking risks in real life relationships.
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Soooo .. my “head” now needs to catch up with my “doing,” cuz *apparently* .. I’ve at least in part already been “doing” what I “know” šŸ˜‰
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Ruby red slippers, there’s no place like home, anybody?
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Live in your own life, Dorothy. ā¤
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Note. To. Self.
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[with apologies for “spacing” issues that I do not know how to fix, in this post. šŸ™‚ ]
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About Grace2Grow

Leah holds a Bachelor's degree in Philosophy, and considers herself a forever-student at heart, especially of the Word of God. The last few years have included a 160+ lbs weightloss, and a complete re-working of her "inner man" as she has had to journey from merely what she "knew" to putting that into "ACTION" .. a transformation that so rocked her core, she believes God's calling in her life includes a sense of "urgency," as the body of Christ is fully - knowingly or unknowingly - entrenched in These Last Days, just as Jesus prophesied. She has worked in various forms of professional Customer Service for nearly 20 years, from Mortgages and Banking to Automotive Plastics, and values most the opportunity to mediate and problem-solve. Leah has served over the years in varying roles, from Women's Bible Study Leader to Choir Director to Worship Leading to teaching Sunday School to working faithfully in the Nursery. She loves being a Wife and Aunt and Sister and Daughter and Friend, and loves to read just about anything she can put her hands on. She is always re-learning putting feet and muscle to these things, but she has learned there is incalculable value in "working the plan," and "being faithful with LITTLE so as to be entrusted with MUCH." And she is trusting her beloved God and Savior for the "much" yet to come. You can find more of her musings on her blogs at http://grace2grow.com and http://grace2grow.blogspot.com/, or follow her on Twitter at https://twitter.com/grace2grow

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