Conflict Need Not Be EPIC!

“My brothers, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry….”

I’ve been doing some self-examination on the topic of my history of being-quick-to-anger and my “adrenalin” response.  I have a pattern of difficulty in controlling my adrenalin levels – you can scroll back to see past posts about some of my health issues and a life of indulgence with food that led to serious obesity – both physically AND emotionally. .. OY VEY! .. 🙂  (Thank God for his transforming grace!)

These twitter updates come on the heels of some recent reflections which may or may not be related to recent real-life events.  😉

  • Caught in a “he said/she said” type tango? Stay as focused 2observable FACTS as possible – it is appropriate 2include non-verbal BEHAVIORS.
  • Anger isnt intrinsically bad but yielding 2it is almost always unhelpful. We tend 2prefer 2feel powerful &use anger as a weapon 2manipulate.
  • Patterns of yielding 2anger produce a physiological “1st response” =habitually offensively defensive =VERY hard 2control adrenalin response.
  • Be quick 2listen slow 2speak &SLOW 2become angry, bcuz man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:19-20)
  • It takes great self-discipline to NOT presume another person’s motives/intentions/feelings when escalating in a confrontation. #justthefacts
  • Conflict is inevitable but it need not be EPIC. We’re all flawed! Stay aware of ur adrenalin response, seek 2CALM &QUIET urself in the fire.
  • A “falling out” doesnt hv 2break relationship irreparably. Be quick 2repent, quick 2forgive, care-FULL 2keep healthy boundaries w/right ppl.
  • Prayerfully discern the “safe” ppl in ur world. ALWAYS hv grace &speak TRUTH in luv. Grace generously welcomes; Truth wisely guards ur heart.
  • It is possible 2b overly cautious w/ur boundaries. Don’t B afraid 2trust but DO be wise about the standards u use 2measure trust-WORTHINESS.
  • Jesus didn’t tell us merely not 2judge – Rather, that we’ll B judged by same MEASURE we use. We must be DILIGENT in “judging” ourselves 1st.
  • I was reminded recently: God says his judgment BEGINS w/his own people, HIS “house.” We must 1st examine ourSELVES, see that WE are faithful!


~Leah ❤

About Grace2Grow

Leah holds a Bachelor's degree in Philosophy, and considers herself a forever-student at heart, especially of the Word of God. The last few years have included a 160+ lbs weightloss, and a complete re-working of her "inner man" as she has had to journey from merely what she "knew" to putting that into "ACTION" .. a transformation that so rocked her core, she believes God's calling in her life includes a sense of "urgency," as the body of Christ is fully - knowingly or unknowingly - entrenched in These Last Days, just as Jesus prophesied. She has worked in various forms of professional Customer Service for nearly 20 years, from Mortgages and Banking to Automotive Plastics, and values most the opportunity to mediate and problem-solve. Leah has served over the years in varying roles, from Women's Bible Study Leader to Choir Director to Worship Leading to teaching Sunday School to working faithfully in the Nursery. She loves being a Wife and Aunt and Sister and Daughter and Friend, and loves to read just about anything she can put her hands on. She is always re-learning putting feet and muscle to these things, but she has learned there is incalculable value in "working the plan," and "being faithful with LITTLE so as to be entrusted with MUCH." And she is trusting her beloved God and Savior for the "much" yet to come. You can find more of her musings on her blogs at and, or follow her on Twitter at

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