Conflict Need Not Be EPIC!
“My brothers, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry….”
I’ve been doing some self-examination on the topic of my history of being-quick-to-anger and my “adrenalin” response. I have a pattern of difficulty in controlling my adrenalin levels – you can scroll back to see past posts about some of my health issues and a life of indulgence with food that led to serious obesity – both physically AND emotionally. .. OY VEY! .. 🙂 (Thank God for his transforming grace!)
These twitter updates come on the heels of some recent reflections which may or may not be related to recent real-life events. 😉
- Caught in a “he said/she said” type tango? Stay as focused 2observable FACTS as possible – it is appropriate 2include non-verbal BEHAVIORS.
- Anger isnt intrinsically bad but yielding 2it is almost always unhelpful. We tend 2prefer 2feel powerful &use anger as a weapon 2manipulate.
- Patterns of yielding 2anger produce a physiological “1st response” =habitually offensively defensive =VERY hard 2control adrenalin response.
- Be quick 2listen slow 2speak &SLOW 2become angry, bcuz man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:19-20)
- It takes great self-discipline to NOT presume another person’s motives/intentions/feelings when escalating in a confrontation. #justthefacts
- Conflict is inevitable but it need not be EPIC. We’re all flawed! Stay aware of ur adrenalin response, seek 2CALM &QUIET urself in the fire.
- A “falling out” doesnt hv 2break relationship irreparably. Be quick 2repent, quick 2forgive, care-FULL 2keep healthy boundaries w/right ppl.
- Prayerfully discern the “safe” ppl in ur world. ALWAYS hv grace &speak TRUTH in luv. Grace generously welcomes; Truth wisely guards ur heart.
- It is possible 2b overly cautious w/ur boundaries. Don’t B afraid 2trust but DO be wise about the standards u use 2measure trust-WORTHINESS.
- Jesus didn’t tell us merely not 2judge – Rather, that we’ll B judged by same MEASURE we use. We must be DILIGENT in “judging” ourselves 1st.
- I was reminded recently: God says his judgment BEGINS w/his own people, HIS “house.” We must 1st examine ourSELVES, see that WE are faithful!