Twitter updates Reflecting on/Reflective of True Transformation

If u hv a quick RAGE response, practice a 1st response of a simple opposite .. Smile, laugh, or immediately speak “PEACE!” .. Calm ur heart!

Watching a favorite comedy is good medicine.

When some1 u luv is struggling w/ , BE w/them, acknowledge any truth in their grief, speak realistic HOPE, encourage them 2laugh.

It is no virtue 2always acquiesce 2what u think another person wants from u. This is evidence u may be a ppl pleaser w/o healthy boundaries.

A decision in the moment 2yield ur own wants 4another’s may FEEL selfless; but it is UNLOVING if u “blame” them as if they’re manipulating.

Trying 2guess what will please ur spouse can be a loving way 2GIVE but not if u attach expectation&make their lack of gratitude THEIR fault.

If ur spouse feels blamed 4ur decisions u may be trying 2hard 2please &not owning ur own decisions. Learn 2speak in the NOW. Hv ur own mind.

Having ur own mind &owning ur own decisions (not only doing what u THINK the other person wants) means: ASK more ?’s &being willing2say NO.

2say what u want, u hv 2KNOW what u want. If u don’t know ur own heart, u can’t “get mad” if the other person guesses incorrectly! Hv MERCY.

Why are u “embarrassed”? Self-conscious? Could it be ur trying2hard 2be something ur not? How can u fault the other person 4ur dishonesty?

Do u feel like ur being blamed? Do u feel u always ruin things? Examine ur harsh thinking. Maybe ur more “fake” 4their sake than u realize.

U make a decision 2act this or that way 2avoid being “rude.” If the other doesn’t know better, how can u blame them 4not seeing ur façade?

If u luv someone enuf 2bend 2their “unawareness”, why UN-luv them later w/a sour disposition? They didn’t ruin ur time, ur expectations did!

Often wives become overconfident in their intuition. Learn2say exactly what u mean! U don’t realize how often u injure by misinterpreting.

U loved him enuf 2marry him. Trust him enuf 2hear ur real thoughts/feelings. Even if all u can muster is “I don’t know why I feel this way!”

Do u often feel tempted 2say “Can’t u see that I’m […]?!” U may hv just identified an unreasonable expectation ur imposing. Look 2urself.

U wish u had more time together? .. oh dear, don’t squander what precious little time u DO have being angry and defensive!

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Ppl tend 2access memories that disable rather than enable them. Train urself 2dwell on positive memories = Empowerment.

Don’t give the Holy Spirit “credit” – as if HE’S holding u back – when the issue is ur OWN emotional resistance 2change.

It’s going 2take patience. Permanent change doesnt happen overnight. Re-assess; fix any problem steps &keep moving forward!

Interrupt ur autopilot! Turn self-defeating actions to self-enhancing ones by encouraging urself. Celebrate smal victories!

Small actions are each like a stair step that gets u 2the goal. Be faithful in them.

Actions BUILD upon each other. When u repeat the right behavior, u start 2imprint change into ur body &mind.

1Know what u want.2Position urself toward ur goal.3Choose wisely everyday.4Surround urself w/encouragemnt.5Wait&reevaluate.

Ask urself: What do u want? &then look deep into ur heart &see if true. If yes, u need 2claim it. Decide ur going 2get it.

“The actions you take must be harmonious with the outcome you desire.”

U must EXERCISE ur power of choice. If u don’t CHOOSE 2change, u may be forced by external pressures that come upon u.

$ doesn’t just drop out of the sky. Love won’t get healthy w/o work. U must TAKE necessary steps 2MAKE change in ur life.

We should be determined 2make positive changes in our lives BEFORE we arrive at the point where change is most difficult!

Poor Alternatives: After years of abusing R bodies physically we MUST change or face negatv consequences of sickness/death.

Sometimes its GOOD 2finally say, “I’ve had enuf! I refuse 2allow the world 2squeeze me anymore. Things are going 2change!”

Every time you experience a crisis, you can either let it destroy you or use it as an opportunity for personal growth.

We resist bcuz we fear loss, but when pain of staying same = greater than pain of change we let go of familiar&embrace new.

Usually people change for 1 of 2 reasons—2move away from pain or 2move toward gain…Away from punishment &toward reward.

Identify the emotions w/which u struggle &develop a strategy 2overcome them. Change ur life by changing ur MIND.

Emotions were given 2u by God! They can empower or paralyze. Develop a pattern of responding CORRECTLY 2negative emotions.

While u shouldnt magnify ur emotions, u shouldnt deny them either. Denying = taking no positive action 2change it!

When negative emotions come into our lives, we tend to magnify them instead of seeing them for what they are.

Always size ur situations up realistically/rationally. Ask urself the right ?s like What will it matter 200 years from now?

Is this really how it is? Or am I blowing it out of proportion? Try ur best 2detach from emotion itself 2C it objectively.

Let God speak 2u about it, put things in perspective! There may B things ur not seeing realistically or judging rationally.

It takes a lot of self control to begin making the transition from negative to positive. What helps you stay positive?

What can I learn from experiencing this negative emotion? What is this revealing 2me about me? What beliefs need 2change?

Asking the right questions will change your focus and help you identify your negative beliefs.

Positive emotions empower 2positive action, &reverse is also true. Want 2FEEL romantic w/spouse again? ACT romantic &PRAY!

Change ur focus or change ur actions. Ask the Holy Spirit 2give u a positive image that will replace that negative one.

Negative emotions almost always point to unhealthy and incorrect beliefs.

Use negative emotions as indicators not as captivators. Learn 2use negtv emotions 2identify wrong BELIEFS u suffer from.

There’s a reason why ur feeling afraid,angry,hurt..Emotions can help you identify areas in ur heart that need some change.

If ur suffering from fear, try to look beyond that emotion’s face value to identify the belief that’s causing ur fear..

What belief are you empowering? Negative emotions can also point to unhealthy behavior. Learn to observe your emotions….

Ask the Holy Spirit 2empower u w/positive emotions…The “fruit of the spirit”….They can be emotions or behaviors.

..Love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control. Against such there is no law. Gal 5:22-23

Joy &Peace are emotions, but also actions. We express the fruit of the spirit inwardly as emotions & outwardly as actions.

Allow these 2strengthen&flow from u; u’ll B empowerd 2reach ur dreams,treat others w/compassion,see life in positive terms.

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Special thanks 4hosting today’s webinar w/. packed tons of content into a short hr!

For lack of VISION, the ppl perish. What’s ur VISION? What R the fears that choke out the good seeds of ur harvest?

1) DECIDE. You have a dream, you may fear stepping out, but you decide to bite the bullet and buy the motorcycle!

2) EDUCATION = CONFIDENCE. U may be nervous, but u sign up 4motorcycle bootcamp. Soon u ride like u were BORN 4this!

3) FOCUS IN DIRECTION U WANT 2GO. U wobble on ur turns cuz ur 2aware of mechanics. Focus fwd &the bike will follow!

4) DREAM BIG &TAKE OTHERS W/U. Step out, find ppl 2teach, create community around shared passion &find fulfillment!

Recognize law of cause &effect; HARNESS it 2change ur thinking & so change ur LIFE. Articulate & CHASE ur VISION.

We get offended 2easily, then meditate on it over &over, developing a sense of entitlement & “THEY OWE ME!” mindset.

The key 2CLARITY, 2keeping ur HOPE realistic, 2blocking ur time, 2persevering: WRITE IT DOWN.

As a man believes in his heart, so is he. Whatever we sow, we also shall reap. Are u tending to weeds? or seeds?

Each 1 has entirely different construction in ur brain! Don’t compare. Focus on ur OWN calling 2incredible things!

RESOLVE to SHUT OUT all other voices &believe in urself no matter how u feel or what others may say. Tend ur garden.

Start where u ARE – find ways 2incorporate learning – waterproof speaker in shower, listen 2podcasts while driving.

Unforgiveness is like mixing poison for the person who hurt you and then drinking it yourself.

Taking “risks” actually stimulates neuron growth in ur brain. Success breeds more success!

Ur subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between dreaming/reality. DREAM BIG! BELIEVE = TRANSFORM ur mind.

Cause & Effect is a universal law. Use “cause & effect” 2change ur brain/physiology. Change ur mind, change ur life!

Ur brainwaves are highest in 1st 20 minutes of ur day. What u do in 1st 20 min can change ur course 4rest of ur day.

Fear wreaks havoc on executive center of brain. Adrenalin+Cortisol R gr8 in battlefield, but paralyze at work/home.

WRITE UR PLAN, Schedul it,Envision&Believ it’ll happen,Speak it consistently,Evalu8,Write improvmnts,Reward urself. Repeat!

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what a beautiful mess we humans can be ❤

Ur not a “product” of what has happened 2u. Ur a FRUIT of what God has done 4 & is doing IN u, & He is PATIENT thru all seasons!

Relationships OFTEN reach painful impasse ovr core values. Our paths may diverge as we nvr expected; BUT lets B grateful 4the season we HAD.

The younger we are the less we realize the seasonal nature of friendships. But when we look back, we can be grateful 4shared grace AND loss.

Read today: “Time’s this chameleon that disguises itself as slow &then fast &who’s got any clue as how 2understand the strangeness of Time?”

Read today: “God never has an objection to saying Yes to us — unless a No is His best protection of us.”

Guard quiet time,Keep healthy boundaries,PRAY,Make physical health a priority,FINISH the important & QUIT ur time-wasters,Give generously!

A “stress free” life is an ILLUSION. Maximizing ur effectiveness in exerting influence OVER ur life. You CAN make better decisions!

Anger tends 2stem from feeling violated in a feeling of “entitlement” (I hv a RIGHT 2not hv my time wasted!) Examine urself: What’s the ROOT

2easy 2get caught up believing partial truths (2much 2do, 2 little time!) = LIES (I can’t do this!). Preach TRUTH 2urself, 1 thing @ a time!

Time 2concentrate on changing my PERSPECTIVE (again). Life isn’t happening TO me, I need 2MAKE things happen. Calm, focused INTENTIONALITY.

REST is not a “waste of time” .. it takes HUMILITY 2slow down, re-assess, self-counsel, formulate a plan &follow it. I need 2GUARD my sleep!

Carrying the “2do” list in ur head = dealing w/increasing complexities of life MORE difficult. Have PATIENCE 2write things OUT &plan AHEAD!

Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards; 4our vineyard is in bloom [vines have tender/vulnerable grapes]. SofS 2:15

Am reminded again: is DOING not merely “feeling” .. It’s not enuf 2WANT 2love well. Be alert 2LIES u believe; BEHAVIOR must change.

If ur more concernd w/ur feelings than ur mate’s, it’s a surefire way 2derail Trust; ur 2lost in ur wants/needs/insecurities 2b loving 2him.

Time 2do MY “due diligence” – trim my emotional sails &even my keel, steady as she goes. Caring 4ME is best way 2b stable &love him WELL.

Plant GOOD seeds &a GOOD harvest will be the natural (&reasonably expected) RESULT!

2many “follows”/”newsfeed” updates = CLUTTER, &the cluttered life is not a happy/grace-filled one. Learn 2WISELY unplug from the unnecessary.

“A soft answer turns away wrath” isn’t just true in how we handle conflict w/others. I need 2learn 2employ this INTERNALLY w/myself, too.

Was told this a.m. I need 2learn 2compartmentalize my thinking (2steer away from stress). I think therez a KEY here 2live calm/focused life.

As a man THINKS in his HEART, so IS he! .. change your thoughts, change your brain, change your behaviors, change your LIFE! ❤

Authentic humility is NOT mere self-deprecation. It’s trademarkd by joyful aspiration, unafraid to “fail” cuz it doesnt EXPECT life 2b easy.

Being a Lifelong Learner is great – but requires something far more valuable than a thirst 4knowledge .. I must 1st be HUMBLE.

Be led by PEACE, not by FEAR. ❤

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.” Ps.19:14

God’s design 4this world gives us a significant parable .. sowing seed &reaping a harvest. And we SOW what we SAY! Prov. 18:20-21

God’s design for our bodies is MIRACULOUS .. we were designed to HEAL!!

‘Prayer is not appointed for the furnishing of God with the knowledge of what we need, but..a confession to Him of our sense of need.’ -Pink

“We must all suffer 1of2 pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret…discipline weighs ounces [but] regret weighs tons.” ~Jim Rohn

Father2the fatherless Defender of widows;God whose dwelling is holy.He places the lonely in families&sets the prisoners free&gives them joy.

Ur kids ask something that trips u up? Take TIME 2consider how 2reply w/o shame &w/o fear, &don’t gv a 5 lb answer when a 2 oz one will do.

It’s as SIMPLE as “natural consequences” .. as simple as sowing, &reaping what we sow. GOD help me SOW GOOD SEED &trust YOU 4the harvest!

Grace will destroy the delusion of your own righteousness, then point you to the reality of your new righteousness in Christ. [Paul David Tripp]

Sometimes God has to remind you that you’re weak so that you can be set free from your “self-sufficiency.” [Tullian Tchividjian]

“The slender capacity of man’s heart cannot comprehend the unfathomable depth and burning zeal of God’s love toward us.” Martin Luther

Be sober &alert,the days R evil. Yet know God also works ALL things 2gether 4good of all who luv him &R cald according 2his purpose. Rom8:28

Though we are all weak, ordinary people, His grace is sufficient to motivate us to remain faithful. [Mike Bickle]

What we say with our mouth is dynamically connected with the measure of faith that grows in our heart. (Mk. 11:23) [Mike Bickle]

You may not like “who” is saying it, but that doesn’t make them wrong.

You may LOVE “who” is saying it, but that doesn’t make them right.

Godly is not passive; it allows 2hv its full effect so that we may be mature&complete, lacking nothing.

Blessings!

~Leah

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About Grace2Grow

Leah holds a Bachelor's degree in Philosophy, and considers herself a forever-student at heart, especially of the Word of God. The last few years have included a 160+ lbs weightloss, and a complete re-working of her "inner man" as she has had to journey from merely what she "knew" to putting that into "ACTION" .. a transformation that so rocked her core, she believes God's calling in her life includes a sense of "urgency," as the body of Christ is fully - knowingly or unknowingly - entrenched in These Last Days, just as Jesus prophesied. She has worked in various forms of professional Customer Service for nearly 20 years, from Mortgages and Banking to Automotive Plastics, and values most the opportunity to mediate and problem-solve. Leah has served over the years in varying roles, from Women's Bible Study Leader to Choir Director to Worship Leading to teaching Sunday School to working faithfully in the Nursery. She loves being a Wife and Aunt and Sister and Daughter and Friend, and loves to read just about anything she can put her hands on. She is always re-learning putting feet and muscle to these things, but she has learned there is incalculable value in "working the plan," and "being faithful with LITTLE so as to be entrusted with MUCH." And she is trusting her beloved God and Savior for the "much" yet to come. You can find more of her musings on her blogs at http://grace2grow.com and http://grace2grow.blogspot.com/, or follow her on Twitter at https://twitter.com/grace2grow

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