“Venting” or CURSING?

I think “venting” is a lie we tell ourselves.  It may “feel good” in the moment, but it “sows seed” to whatever is making us angry, and it becomes that much harder to overcome/forgive/let go down the road.
Perhaps this post is coming out of the fact that I am just beginning to realize how much of our merely “expressing the truth of how we feel” is more harmful than helpful.  I understand the concept well ~ “Well, that’s just how I feel!”  But….what about training myself not to YIELD to how I feel, but instead speak the word of God over the situation?  Bring my feelings into submission to the truth, rather than letting my feelings be the “expression” of so-called truth?
How much does “merely giving vent” to them actually *empower* them to be that much more deceptive?  Not that there isn’t room to mourn, for example, or to *feel* deeply ~ I don’t mean to lump together all ‘feelings” per se, but maybe primarily in “anger” which is what we usually “feel” when we’re venting….am I not only indulging the anger?  Sending my heart after all the justifying reasons for said anger?  Exalting self, “murdering” another in my heart in the process, and maybe even re-writing the offense to suit my own purposes?  Maybe even working myself INTO a greater feeling of being offended because, you know what, by golly?  that’s even worse than I originally thought!!…..and so on.
Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing – my brothers this ought not be!  (see James ch. 3)
BUT!  Just ask yourself….
How different would my life be ~ both external AND internal life ~ if I would resign myself to only speak the truth in a way that BLESSES and GIVES LIFE? to EDIFY (build up) the hearer….
Just thinking out loud on this one, again.  🙂  Considering how verbal I am wont to be, I think this topic is one I will need to revisit often the remaining days of my life!  Would to God that I could become a BLESSER and not a CURSER!

About Grace2Grow

Leah holds a Bachelor's degree in Philosophy, and considers herself a forever-student at heart, especially of the Word of God. The last few years have included a 160+ lbs weightloss, and a complete re-working of her "inner man" as she has had to journey from merely what she "knew" to putting that into "ACTION" .. a transformation that so rocked her core, she believes God's calling in her life includes a sense of "urgency," as the body of Christ is fully - knowingly or unknowingly - entrenched in These Last Days, just as Jesus prophesied. She has worked in various forms of professional Customer Service for nearly 20 years, from Mortgages and Banking to Automotive Plastics, and values most the opportunity to mediate and problem-solve. Leah has served over the years in varying roles, from Women's Bible Study Leader to Choir Director to Worship Leading to teaching Sunday School to working faithfully in the Nursery. She loves being a Wife and Aunt and Sister and Daughter and Friend, and loves to read just about anything she can put her hands on. She is always re-learning putting feet and muscle to these things, but she has learned there is incalculable value in "working the plan," and "being faithful with LITTLE so as to be entrusted with MUCH." And she is trusting her beloved God and Savior for the "much" yet to come. You can find more of her musings on her blogs at http://grace2grow.com and http://grace2grow.blogspot.com/, or follow her on Twitter at https://twitter.com/grace2grow

Posted on November 19, 2012, in Bible Study, Personal and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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